Monthly Archives: May 2008

SO…we bought a car on e-bay.  After being outbid a lot and checking out other cars, we got a good deal…BUT, we failed to look it up on the map before buying it, and just assumed since most of the cars we were looking at were in Chicago, Quincy was just a suburb of Chicago…until we looked it up.  Oh no…it’s on the Missouri border, close to St. Louis.  I’m not really up for 14 hrs. of driving in 1 day–well I’d love to, but shouldn’t being 34 wks. along.  We’ve looked at every possible angle to make it the cheapest, easiest route…which may mean he gets on a greyhound at 10 pm and arrives there the next a.m. at 11. 
So, Memorial Day plans are on hold…
Once it’s all said and done, we’re really looking forward to getting our little black convertible back!
I can’t believe this was taken 2 yrs. ago…

(Jack just walked in the room with a dark marker line drawn across his forehead–He says he’s Bert.  Ha ha.)

Nesting is still in full swing, despite many people’s caring warnings.  Today we’re getting mulch and planting our garden.  Yesterday I was feeling exhausted from a big week, but was glad to finish the curtains for the baby’s room.  I’ll post a pic as soon as I get a new curtain rod–right now they’re hanging on a stick of bamboo, so it takes away from the dainty little baby curtain effect 🙂  And the boys are working on their treehouse.  It’s such a fun project for them–digging in dirt with their little shovels, mixing “concrete” (as Andy mixes up the real stuff, they mix dirt with water), hammering nails, and screwing in beams.  Can’t wait to get some pics up of that too.

I’m almost finished reading “bringing up boys.”  I’ve had the book for years, but it caught my eye the other day.  It’s the first parenting book I’ve read since “Babywise”–which I regretted ever reading.  Babywise has been helpful to some great moms I know, but messed with my mind and was not a good thing for me.  ANYhow, I don’t usually like parenting books because kids are all so different, and it seems like someone has a kid, tries a method, kid turns out ok, and they write a book on it.  But this book has been different for me–One thing I just haven’t been able to get my mind around is what to do next year for schooling for Miles.  Before reading the book, we were pretty set on sending him to kdg.  SINCE reading it, we’re leaning more and more to waiting another year.  He and Jack will be in the same grade then, but I think that’s better than putting pressure on him before he’s ready.  I just heard him say “speech therapy” the other day.  He’s been going since he was 18 mos. and is now 5, and has always called it “play with Tammy”…but we’ve never told him why he goes or showed him pics of his cleft surgery…There’s just some things I think he maybe should know before school, and I don’t know that we’re ready to tell him quiet yet.

The other thing it’s really challenged me on is being ok with them being BOYS.  I value a clean house.  It’s just nice after a crazy day to sit down and relax–which, for me, doesn’t include looking at all the stains I need to remove or things I need to put back together.  I started to find myself inwardly really bothered with cleaning up messes all the time!  (Not that we have a super-clean house, but you know.)  EVERY time they’re outside and come in, there’s a trail of dirt following them, and that was starting to get under my skin.  Somehow, this book has been really helpful in helping me be ok with it…and I’ve even chuckled at it a few times since!  I want them to be respectful, yes.  And to clean up after themselves, yes.  But I don’t want to place my value for order and cleanliness above them having fun and being kids.  I don’t know, it’s like any book.  It just came at a good time for me. 

Well, our mulch has arrived…time to go spread it!



Oh me oh my. 
I just now flipped the page in my daytimer to reveal the week that has already passed…if that’s any indication of this past week.  It was beautiful.  Other than getting set up for a garage sale we have going today and tomorrow, I’ve spent my time on the floor playing.  We celebrated Miles’ 5th birthday last wknd., and I just felt like such a rookie parent.  Friday night (night of his b-day, eve before his party), I was bustling around trying to pull it all together, and he came up to me and said something that still rings in my ears “Mommy, you’re my best friend mommy, and you haven’t colored with my all day.”  I lost it.  I dropped everything and ran to the crayons and coloring books and thought the whole time “what am I doing?!?!?”  Here I am, trying to create “memories,” making his dragon cake, catching up on his scrapbook, getting ready to host his friends…when in the end, all he wanted was his best friend to color with him.  Well, we did have a fun party.  God is so gracious.  It had called for rain all week, and I prayed it wouldn’t rain all week so that we could be outside…and it didn’t rain…but the temp. dropped to the 40s that night and it was too cold to be outside anyway!  I felt like in a way that was so fitting for Miles’ big day.  It seems like it’s been 5 years of understanding more and more of God’s grace and control through Miles’ life.  God has been so good to us, and that doesn’t mean life is always the warm sunshine I dream of, but learning to rest in His control, knowing I can come to Him with my earnest prayers…but that if He doesn’t answer them the way I would if I was in control, it doesn’t mean He loves me any less…just that He knows best.

So, I thought I would take time to write about what the past 5 years have meant to me, but it doesn’t even seem to matter compared to the lessons I’ve learned just this past week…since my baby turned 5.  Time goes so fast!!!!  And I don’t spend enough weeks like this one with no agenda, but to love my kids…and rare are the weeks that are as rewarding as this.  I love people, and I love spending time with students…but I can tell when my kids have had enough of their mom being distracted…and this was one such week.  Next week, we’re headed to Ohio to see Miles’ dr.  I love her, and am always amazed at the progress we see from her treatments.  Andy’s taking the whole week so he can spend it playing on the floor with us too!  Yeah!

We’ve decided to do some little family outings rather than a big vacation this summer.  Monday we took the kids to Chicago on Andy’s day off.  It was such a blast!  The kids are old enough where they were SO GOOD, and it felt like a true fun family vacation.  They didn’t want to go home.  We didn’t either.  We ate lunch at Superdawg, walked around Navy Pier and downtown, and ate my favorite pizza, Pizzeria Due.  It was a perfect day…besides a venti iced mocha spilled on the sidewalk of Navy Pier. 

I think I’m getting roped into watching the Bourne Identity series…guess my love for my husband is stronger than my love for comedies 😉

One super-sweet detail I almost forgot.  After the kids went to bed, Andy and I were sitting on the couch recapping the day, and I realized we never gave Miles his present.  He never asked the whole day for anything!  He just kept asking “Am I 5?!?…When do I turn 5?!?” I love the innocence of that.

And this a.m. at our garage sale, Jack says “Dad, I’m being a really good host”…and then before Andy realizes it, Jack is giving away Andy’s breakfast muffin to a lady.  She took it and ate it!  🙂 

Here’s some party pics.
The kids painted flowerpots.
Jack gave rides on his “combine”.
Jackson and I went in for Miles’ preschool b-day party.
We had a pet turtle, named hiccup, for a day until he escaped…it’s sad when you lose a turtle.